Skip to main content

Thoughts on life and death

I hope you'll forgive me for a little deviation from my normal blog subject today. I am going to talk a little about books, so hopefully that will still be okay!

My grandpa died last week. I knew it was coming and as I look back on my choices during the time leading up to his death I'm a little sad that I didn't take time out of my schedule to drive up and see him, to give him one last hug and tell him I love him one more time and to thank him for all that he's done for me.

At the same time, I have some amazing memories of him and I really wouldn't have wanted to remember him the way he was. He was 92 years old, he could no longer walk, he wasn't talking a whole lot any more. 

I guess for me, I choose to remember him the way I knew him. I remember him as the man who seemed crotchety but would always go out of his way to help in any way that he could help. I remember him as the man who loved black and white Perry Mason shows and Louis Lamour books (I don't think I ever actually read a whole one though!) I remember him as the man who when I was in college always invited me over for dinner, and slipped me some money before I left, even though they were on a mission at the time and probably on a tight budget. I remember him as the man who baptized me and taught me about my country and just how much it meant to him. I remember spending endless summer days running in and out of his house from the kitchen to the trampoline and him never saying one word about it (well, he might have yelled a few words some of those times!) I remember his farewell address and welcome home address in his ward and how he might have said a few of those "farmer" words that I sometimes talk about. I remember him as the man who had to have all of his teeth pulled, yet still wanted to eat liver for dinner, he was so determined that when his dentures didn't work, he had my grandma blend the liver up in the blender for him. I remember endless meals at his home, and nope, I still can't stand anchovies on my pizza! I remember him as a man of faith who had no idea how to use a computer when he was called on a family history mission to Salt Lake City, but accepted the call anyway and worked until he had mastered all that needed to be mastered. I love that one of my very earliest memories is of me seeing him get out of his CF truck and knowing that he was coming to visit our family.

I have to say that I am so grateful for the knowledge that families can be together forever, there's no way this life would be worth it without that. To me, families are pretty much everything. 


I don't know if you've ever been to a funeral for someone who is buried with full military honors, but it was an amazing experience. He had the funeral procession (headlights, flashers, running stop lights and stop signs and an escort), the 21 gun salute, the flag given to his widow, the whole 9 yards because of his World War II service. So amazing! 


Most of all, I remember a man that loved all of his grandkids the same, no matter if they were his biological grandkids or his step-grandkids. Thank you Grandpa Dale for making sure we knew that we were loved. I love you! Hope you're enjoying being with Pat again! I sure am glad to know that we'll meet again soon!

Comments

  1. I am so sorry to hear about your loss. This was such a lovely post.

    ReplyDelete

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Higher

About the CD: Award-winning tenor Nathan Pacheco has toured the world featured alongside world-class artists such as Yanni, Katherine Jenkins, and Placido Domingo. In all of his travels across South America, through Europe and Asia, and across America, Nathan often includes spiritually rooted and uplifting songs in his repertoire. This album is a collection of his favorite songs that connect with those spiritual moments from his performances across the world. These songs take the listener on a beautiful journey with classic hymns such as "Be Thou My Vision," soaring Italian epics like "Nella Fantasia," and modern classics such as "Forever," by Kari Jobe. Performing with intimate acoustic backing and often featuring piano and cello, Nathan's desire with this album is to help people reach higher, to feel deeper spiritual connection, and to find peace through songs that life the soul.

Track List
1. Forever
2. Be Thou My Vision
3. The Lord’s Prayer
4. His Love

Kayaks and Kisses

About the book: Brynn Caley is about to start her dream career running an outdoor sporting goods store when an out-of-town business guru makes his own offer on the property. Coerced into forming a temporary partnership, Brynn, with her ski experience, finds she has to work with fishing expert Gage to run the year-round shop. 

Through a series of innocent misconceptions and a few blatant lies, Brynn doesn’t realize that the handsome single guy on the construction crew is her new partner, and he doesn’t want to set her straight until he can gain her favor. She, on the other hand, would do anything not to work with the stuffy businessman she’s only met through email. 

Inspired by the movies You’ve Got Mail and The Shop around the Corner, Kayaks & Kisses is a heart-warming tale of finding love in autumn leaves, outdoor activities, and new friendships.

My review: This book was so fun! I loved that it's loosely based on one of my very favorite movies, You've Got Mail. There was at …

Blog Tour - Love and Fat Free Cheese

About the book: Fat-free cheese is okay—unless you’ve tasted real cheese. Juliet Easton learns this about love too as she uncovers who truly loves her, and who is using her to get to the secret she knows about the disappearance of her sister’s fiance and the pharmaceutical conspiracy he plans to reveal. Can she protect her loved ones’ lives and her heart? You’ll be hooked from Asiago to Zamorano cheese in this suspenseful and hilarious romantic thriller.

My review: I was amazed at just how much I loved this whole book. I picked it up and read it in one day because I wanted to know just what happened so badly. Such a great book, and I had to laugh at the author's name, Sharp is a kind of cheddar cheese so it totally goes with the title.

I loved the way that Juliet is the main character in this book, because it easily could have been her sister Eva, I think having Juliet the main character brings a ton of extra plot greatness. I also liked the way there were tons of flashbacks to Eva&…